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Are you “COUNTING WHAT REALLY COUNTS” in order to lose weight?
Part 1 of 2
To lose weight – you must count what really counts TO YOU! – That’s it…
Let me ask you a few relevant and important questions to give you some perspective on how counting what counts can revolutionize your quest to lose weight.…
Are you living your life in line with what matters most and what’s most important to you? (Or in other words are you counting what really counts)?
Do you know why you really, really want to lose weight and are you using that to empower and motivate yourself into full-on consistent and joyful daily action?
Is what you are currently counting (and therefore acting on) going to take you to the outcomes you want? – is it delivering you the results, body, health and quality of life you desire?
What aren’t you currently counting that you should be?
(If you don’t know the answer to this one you need to find that out)
If you were to zoom out and look at your life from a distance could you genuinely say and feel that you are doing what’s best for you, your future and what’s best for those that you care about? – If not then you need to bring the difference into focus, you need to count what counts before it is too late!
If you are ever going to get to losing weight (and keeping it off) you are going to have to start counting the things that will lead you there! That’s it, that’s the bottom line.
For example; do you count your health? – does that count to you? Do you count your future? You might say that these things count (are important) to you yet are you demonstrating that in your day to day choices and actions?
If you’re not doing it then you don’t really count it – because you are counting the fish and chips or the taste of the cheesecake more than your health, and your future and effectively even your loved ones. We are constantly counting and discounting (not counting) one thing over another. At the time that you are eating the pizza you certainly aren’t counting your desire to lose weight are you? It’s slipped away – but what if there was a way to keep that to the fore, so it ruled and you felt good about that.
What if I told you you could capitalize on this inherent phenomenon of counting one thing over another to lose weight in a way that gave it a feeling of ease and certainty.
The power to move and to change lies in the areas of your life (the gaps) where you are not acting in line with your own values or in line with the outcomes you want. It’s the gap between what’s important to you and what you are doing
It’s easy to harness and bring that into alignment because the seed is already there, there is discomfort or a sense of incompleteness or incongruence.
So it’s these areas; where your actions aren’t lining up with what you count, where something that is important to you is being neglected, where the outcomes you are creating aren’t what you want, or where you have certain desires and results that you have not yet made real in your life – that’s the stuff we want to change and use to get you into action to lose weight.
These are the SEEDS that once you know how to capitalize on and leverage will get you moving.
The crux of the matter
So this is the crux of the matter – If you are overweight, unhealthy and dissatisfied with your life it is likely that you are counting many things that don’t truly count (that don’t and won’t ultimately matter to you) When you do that you are also simultaneously and by implication NOT counting many of the more important things that ultimately do or will count.
But you can reverse this and use that very same principle to GET WHAT YOU WANT.
“What do YOU need to start counting in order to start taking action and producing the results you want” (Put that in the context of losing weight or whatever your personal goal is) in the next blog post i’m going to give you some proven effective things to count from which you can devise your own too.
This is the theme of my new book and it uses the idea of counting what counts along with practical tools and techniques that harness this power and get you to a place where what you count facilitates you getting the results you want.
In a nutshell you want to be able to get the things that will move you to easy weight loss operating as high level values – so you act on them without trying or even having to think about it. So as you can probably sense – this goes way beyond motivation and enters into the realm of what i call a strategic alignment.
One of the paradigm shifts needed is a move from the old idea of motivation to the new concept of a strategic alignment which you’ll learn more about soon. The reason we are spending a bit of time on so called “motivation” in this way is because it’s the first, necesary step in this process – get this right and the rest of the journey is easier, more certain and built to last.
Within the book there are also 24 ‘universal counters’ that are proven effective things to count that have made the difference for clients.
In the next post – I’ll share 7 of these with you. I’ve selected these few because they also have an element of URGENCY within them which is something else you need to get into action. It’s one of a host of powerful ‘motivation boosters’ you’ll find in the book too.
Here is the link to the book if you want all the peices of the puzzle now >>COUNT WHAT COUNTS BEFORE ITS TOO LATE<<
How to double your motivation to lose weight instantly!
Instead of focussing on the ‘losing weight’ focus on ‘what having lost weight will give you…for an immediate increase in your level of motivation to lose weight Why? – because that is what you are really after.
So you first need to identify what exactly that is for you!!!!
What would move and motivate you most about having lost weight – why do you really want to lose weight – what are your reasons? Why is it important to you and WHAT WOULD HAVING LOST WEIGHT GIVE YOU?
Do you want to see the pride in your partners eyes, would you like to feel sexy again or feel attractive to the opposite sex in order to find your ideal partner. Do you just want to feel happy and confident with how you look, do you want to be able to buy and wear the clothes of your choice, do you want to feel secure in your health and be free from disease and know that you’ll be independent and mobile as you get older? Do you want to be a great role model for your kids so they don’t become overweight too – do you want to be able to take them to the beach or play with them more and actually have the energy to keep up? Do you want to feel more vibrant and alive each moment and live a better quality of life – if so what would that look like for you? Or maybe you’d just like to be free of the whole ‘weight loss saga’ once and for all?
What is it for you?
These are the sorts of things that it is really about – essentially it’s about quality of life and what that means to you – not losing weight but what losing weight will give you, that is where the motivation to move and change things comes from, that’s where your real motivation to lose weight is hidding.
What you uncover as you begin to ask these questions and seek answers with that in mind is WHAT YOU REALLY WANT. That’s why you must shift the focus there, and when you do, everything you do from that point on begins to come out of a feeling of moving towards what you truly want and BOOM! It all takes on a different feeling – one of motivation, inspiration, energy, enthusiasm, excitement and willingness.
You’ve moved from having to – to wanting to lose weight and do what’s required in one foul swoop and not only will that naturally fire you up and get you into action, it will last too. The crazy thing is that you will lose weight almost as a bi-product of this fresh and effective focus.
You’ll now choose the healthier option because you want what you want more than the piece of cake. We just tip the scales and its way easier than you think with the right tweaks to your mind-set. Think about this; If we uncovered the things you’d really love and can have when you’ve lost the weight you want to, and then you were given the option of having the piece of cake OR all the things you said you really want – what would you choose???? If you’re like most of the clients I’ve worked with you won’t even second guess it. So all that’s needed is some clever and strategic shifts in perspective – like the one I just gave you. We tweak and we tweak until you get your mind on-side.
By adjusting your focus in this way you’ll also avoid the usual pitfalls that an excessive focus on losing weight brings with it which are responsible for most people’s so called “failed attempts” at losing weight and keeping it off.
Hey try this: bring the idea of ‘losing weight’ to mind now…..
Now how does that feel? My guess it – it brings with it all the baggage associated with past attempts, possibly a sense of frustration or helplessness too. It probably leaves you feeling like avoiding it – notice how the easiest option can appear to be just to stay as you are. This is the stuff we need to change.
We’ll get to your seeming food cravings, evening binges or so called ‘lack of will-power but we need to start here no matter what the presenting problem is. In fact if you start here you may find that some of those issues disappear without having to attend to them directly.
The bottom line is that the crucial shifts you have been looking for are a mind-set thing – Soooo…..
The first shift I recommend is to start to focus on what it will give you…. by asking the sorts of questions above. Asking these questions tells you and connects you to what having lost weight will give you. It unveils why it’s important to you and what you are really seeking; and that is the only thing that will drive you all the way and do that ecologically. Ecologically means in a way that feels ‘ALL GOOD’ – that means the path of least resistance where no part of you objects, which means you’ll rid yourself of that pesky “self-sabotage”
Can you see how you can make a huge amount of ground with this one shift – it’ll refresh your whole approach and open the door to us re-vamping the other proven aspects of a mind-set that enables you to lose weight (rather than disables you) It’s time to get the very power of the mind that’s been working against you working for you, are you up for that? Cool because it’s already begun.
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